The Idea of Detachment

“TOO MUCH ATTACHMENT TOO MUCH HURT” 

People believe too much attachment hurts, they want to distance people themselves from a relationship that creates the feeling of hurt. “Little attachment leads to little hurt, and no attachment causes no hurt “. The notion of being attached in our minds is to behave and do as the one we love does. This idea of attachment in such a way creates feelings of hurt. For example, we see two siblings born attached, they sit together, walk together, stand together, get ready together, everything they do all together, wouldn’t life be great for them? But then, they are separated; which one do you now think is more comfortable? if one sits other than stand, the other walks one can run, because they’re detached. Talking about Emotional attachment, this means my mind is connected to their mind, if one gets upset, the other person gets upset naturally. Even if the other doesn’t get upset, it is believed that he/she is” indifferent to our feelings, they don’t love us, they don’t feel the pain “ which one is going through. It the belief system that we all have created. If there is a family of 4 people in the house and one gets upset, the others also contribute to the pain by creating that type of energy. It is as similar as walking down the street if one fell in the pit, the others will jump into the same because they love you so much. The same people reach out for counsellors as they think counsellors are not attached to them, they will radiate respect and will not be judgmental. 

This is one way of living, the other way of living and loving is that when they are upset we radiate powerful energies to calm them down, they are rude and we radiate sweetness in return, they are frustrated and we radiate calmness to their souls. The more stable we are, the more comfort we will be able to provide the person who is in pain, who is vulnerable. This is what is the idea of detachment. This kind of detachment will bring more love and peace in our relationships. Such detachment depicts that my feelings are not dependent on your feelings. We will be able to pull the person from the pit but if we fall in the same we cannot.  When we read about unconditional love, it means it is all being ourselves, who I am, your state of mind doesn’t influence my state of mind. Detachment equals to unconditional love whereas attachment equals to conditional love. Detachment means that my feelings do not fluctuate with the situation or the stimulus. Detachment means radiating more positive energy, more love. If somebody does some activity that creates a feeling of hurt but you don’t radiate it, not getting disturbed by them. Detachment doesn’t mean being indifferent, it means to provides an environment for others to speak out their feelings and not getting influenced by it, not judging them so that your stability brings them to you when they are in pain and calm their soul. Detachment is the best gift you can give to your family.